I
vividly remember as a 5-year-old throwing obnoxious tantrums each time my parents
left for work… I’m sure each of you have similar memories of that sinking
feeling you got as a kid when you thought your parents were abandoning you. But
with loving, stable families, all of us had the assurance that we would be
reunited with our parents mere hours after our loud displays of emotion. Every
day, maltreated children in Kentucky are torn from their families and
everything they once called home with no promise of reunification. As a result,
Kentucky social services currently has custody of 11,500 abused and neglected
children and teenagers in need of the same love and support that all of us have
received.
According
to Fonda Walker, a Social Services clinician in Kentucky, children usually enter
foster care following some kind of parental abuse: physical, verbal, emotional,
or sexual; or following a parent’s arrest, which often occurs due to substance
abuse. The primary goal of Kentucky’s Foster program is to provide children
safe homes and positive relationships in the hopes of ultimately reuniting them
safely with their birth family. And positive
experiences with foster families and family preservation services dramatically improve
children’s emotional health and future success, so it’s important that these
programs are sufficiently funded and staffed with empathetic foster parents
from around the state.
Most
children removed by social services feel neglected, unloved, and may have been
abused. They oftentimes have social, psychological, and behavioral issues
because of this maltreatment. But, according to a study published in the
Journal of Social Work, foster children who develop a secure relationship with
attentive foster parents gain a capacity for introspection and empathy, are
more equipped to handle emotional distress, and develop psychosocial
resilience. These skills improve the flow of children’s reunification with
their birth parents and prepare foster children for future hardship and
adulthood. Clearly, the supportive and loving relationships built through the
foster care program have lifelong impacts on children, even those who return to
their birth families.
But
regardless of inadequate parenting, children who enter the foster system are
still emotionally attached to their biological family. And many biological
parents make bad choices, face the consequences, and decide to work towards a
second chance: regaining custody of their children. For this reason,
reunification of children with birth families is the priority for social
services programs. In fact, with the support of foster families, 35 percent of
children are released back to parents or primary caregivers, reconstructing
broken families. This would not be possible without the help of family
preservation services offered by the government, which include parenting
programs, reunification counseling, respite care, follow-up-services to support
families in the process of reunification and healing, and even programs that
help prevent situations from escalating to child removal. All of these programs
attempt to ensure that children who return to their biological parents will
continue to experience the same love and support at home that they found in
their foster families.
The
positive impacts of the foster system and supporting programs on children and
their families is immeasurable. But the Kentucky Foster Adoptive Caregiver
Exchange System, or KY FACES is extremely underfunded. According to the
national Children’s Bureau, Kentucky social services has custody of 23% MORE
foster children than the national average. And yet, we spend 21% LESS on foster
care than the national average. That means we’re spending less money … on more
children. Kentucky’s current programs are proving relatively effective, but
with increased funding, they could touch the lives of more families on a more
intimate level and improve child wellbeing across the state.
But
for foster care and any of these currently underfunded supporting programs to
make a difference in children’s lives, there must be a large pool of dedicated
foster parents. The stereotypical image of a self-serving foster parent
clandestinely embezzling government grants intended for their foster child is
just that: a stereotype. In fact, most foster parents rely on their personal
funds to supplement the meager $24 daily government allowance for childcare. Raising
a child costs around $38 per day. Increasing the government stipend to $38 would
eliminate the financial constraints preventing potential parents with low
incomes from fostering. Enlarging the pool of available parents through a
stipend increase is an important step towards improving the parent to foster
child ratio in Kentucky. Most fosters are like Melanie Watts, a former police captain
who wanted a single child, but who ultimately took in four foster children
because no one else would. But the few generous parents are stretched too thin.
With around 8,000 children still in need of safe and loving foster homes in
Kentucky alone, there just aren’t enough foster parents to go around. There’s a
global demand for willing parents, but don’t think adopting a child from
another country is the only noble way to help. There are children yearning for
love and attention right here in Lexington. And because they’re in the foster
system in the hopes of reunification with a Kentucky birth family, they can’t
be moved to homes outside of the state, meaning Kentucky foster families are
there only hope. That’s why it’s incredibly important to foster and adopt
locally.
Ultimately,
the foster system at it’s finest is an incredible resource for child
development, biological family reunification, and potential adoptive families.
But in order to function properly in Kentucky, the foster system needs better funding
and local foster parents. And that’s something that we can achieve. We are the
next generation of leaders and foster parents. So whether you go into government,
can afford to donate, or better yet, take in a foster child yourself, make a difference
in the lives of these needy children.
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